It's important to focus on the positives...

in ourselves and others!

Have you ever really admired someone, looked up to them, thought highly of them in one or more ways and been too intimidated by that to tell them?

That lack of self confidence has kept me many times from expressing to my friends, family, co-workers, associates, or acquaintances how much I admired them and how much they had added to my life. I finally realized, at some point, that my lack of self confidence should never keep me from sharing something positive with someone else. One never knows if it will make a real difference or not, but I have yet to find anyone who doesn't like to hear something honest and heartfelt that is positive about them.

Since then I have tried to express how much the people in my life have meant to me. I'm not always good at it. I value the people around me very much most of the time.

My accident created a situation where I was forced to catch a ride with a woman I have known for years. I lived next door to her at one point, but was always intimidated by her. She seemed to be far too affluent for me. She had a beautiful home, was a very attractive woman, had a stable marriage and a wonderful family.

I was struggling through a bad marriage with too many little children and actually lost my marriage and my job while living next door. I couldn't see any reason, especially at that time in my life, why this woman would want to have anything to do with me unless it was pure pity.

I have found a good friend and we giggle LOTS! She shares some really funny stories with me and I enjoy and look forward to the time I spend with her. On the way home one night I told her that I had always admired her but had been too intimidated by her to try and be friends. It wasn't an easy admission to make. And her reaction was far from what I expected!

I have learned that one never knows when someone else needs a boost. And if I can give that boost, what right do I have to keep that back?

What we focus on in life is what we get.

I choose to focus on the positives!